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Devaki Sokaris

Live the life your soul wants

About Devaki

This is a concise story of my life. It took a lot of inner work, spiritual growth, hope, and persistence to arrive where I am today.

This is a back story thus decades old, so please appreciate I have had plenty of time to transmute all the emotions associated with it, thus I have evolved. I didn't tell my story until 2019 because it wasn’t necessary for my healing. I am at peace with my past. I share my story now for others.

There are many things I did not put in my story, because my intention was not to write a book, but rather to illustrate that even though life can be difficult, one can overcome many things.

Through some insight into my life journey, may I inspire you to not be afraid to grow through your suffering, discover the true essence of who you are, and the gifts you came to share with the world.

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Skills ^

Over the course of my life I have discovered many things about the gifts I came into this life with, and some were awakened in later life.

I view myself as having a bunch of skills and abilities that complement each other. I am highly intuitive, and my intuition has been a valuable tool in bringing insights to my writing, and clients.

I have honed my skills over 25 years in personal growth, intuitive life mentoring, meditation, energy healing, guided imagery. I have a past background in nursing, fitness instruction, remedial massage, weight loss consulting, and flower essence production. I am also a singer song writer and recording artist.

Mentoring ^

I have been on a personal and spiritual growth journey for over 35 years.

I showed signs that I had a natural ability to help people understand themselves when quite young. I knew I was to become a nurse when I finished school, but these skills were shown to me so I could develop them further over many years, in preparation for what was to come.

I started mentoring others about 10 years into my healing journey, because you cannot help others unless you have already transformed from your past, and are able to then deconstruct the wisdom, so you can explain it to people. Experience isn’t wisdom, it is only when you have truly understood your suffering that you have wisdom.

My clients did not know my story. Many of them were drawn to me because they felt an instant trust that I would know how to help them.

I developed my own method of mentoring to help people to self-evaluate better, understand their life purpose, and source their own wisdom. I have worked with people for personal, career and business issues. Often, they feed into each other, thus why one needs to understand and work on themselves for their best potential in life.

Writing ^

I have been a singer and songwriter since the year 2001 so have written many lyrics, but I only started to write articles in 2016.

Writing for me is more about serving my purpose through the energy of words. I write with the intent to open people’s hearts to understanding themselves and humanity better. It may push buttons, and it may bring challenges to some, but the intent is from a place of compassion.

We never know the real impact we have on others when we write. It isn't what you say that a person will remember necessarily, but when you write they will remember how it made them feel, and what it stirred within them. Words with right intent can bring healing to another, switch on a light that was waiting to be discovered and help one to understand themselves more.

My philosophy ^

My philosophy is simple. We are here to become who we truly are. I believe in not wasting energy on what isn’t important or dwelling in the past where one cannot materially change anything.

I am not here to tell others how to live their life. My aim is to help others see they are much more than they think they are, and through sourcing their own wisdom they can evolve to their best self.

I live my life walking my talk as best I can. I have lived and learned from a very challenging life, and believe I have something of value to pass on.

Purpose ^

Living my life purpose has been all about the journey, not the destination. It was important to me in evolving that I pursued my growth, and healing through walking a spiritual path. It has given me a great sense of purpose, self-awareness, humanity and the universe.

Every challenge I have experienced has urged me to did deeper in understanding the true essence of who I am. I came to realize I was much more than I thought I was. I am living to the best of my ability, the life I came here to live.

Spiritual path ^

I was always interested in spirituality and had a sense of my higher self (soul). My trauma was the trigger for my spiritual awakening. I wanted to discover more seriously who I am, and what I came here to do, learn, and experience. My spiritual path has been the main healer in my life the past 35 years.

I followed Buddhism for many years along with a few years in Siddha yoga. I later settled into Maitreya Buddhism and theosophy in 1995 where I am still today.

Following this path has cost me the loss of family, and many friends. People should never tell you who you should be, and one of the reasons why I have privately consulted with many people over the last 25 years to help them discover who they are. I am grateful for what life has taught me even though I have had some very painful experiences.

Life transitions ^

This section explains the transitions from early life to adulthood.

In the beginning ^

I was born and raised in New Zealand and came to Australia in 1977 when I was 19 years old. I later went back to New Zealand to live in early 1990 but returned to Australia in November 1991, where I have lived ever since.

Growing up, I was conveniently named as rebellious, and difficult, making it even harder to be myself. Being an introvert, I liked to spend more time on my own than with people, and that hasn’t changed. It wasn’t that I didn’t have friends, more that I was often reminded by others that I didn’t fit into what they viewed as normal. I was made fun of and ridiculed for much of my childhood.

I wasn’t very grounded for a good part of my life. This was mostly due to being highly intuitive, and the hostile environment I was living in. I would often not be present when I couldn’t deal with what was happening to me.

I came into this world placid, and with a good sense of purpose. My placid nature was to be short lived as I merged into school age living with an abusive mother. I learned I couldn’t control other people’s behaviour, so was destined to suffer the abuse.

As a result, I developed low self-esteem, anxiety, irritable bowel, OCD. I lived in constant fear of her actions so much that I would change my behaviour often in an attempt not to provoke her. I wasn’t terribly successful because her triggers were not predictable.

Given some of my fears were very real, it was hard to know what was a real at times, so anxiety was a constant in my life. I became more highly strung, on edge and nervous.

When I was 16, my mother suffered a massive brain haemorrhage caused by an aneurism for which she survived. Following that she was never violent again, but she was different. I believe her underlying health condition was most likely provoking her behaviour all those years.

My father was a kind man and non-abusive, but he did not protect me from this behaviour. He behaved more like a victim to it and did not feel to have my mother checked out to see what was wrong with her. I don’t know why, but I was never angry at him. .I won’t go into the whole family dynamic here, because my aim was just to highlight the source of my anxiety.

My mother and I never spoken about it, and I’m not even sure what she can recall about those first 16 years of my life, because after these violent outbursts, she would behave like nothing had happened.

Since then we have had an on and off relationship where we have gone for many years without interaction by her choice. She would often create something to be annoyed about to sabotage our relationship. We have not spoken since 2005.

I have long forgiven her and are at peace with my past. As far as I know she lives alone since my father’s death in 2011 which I discovered one year after he has died. My mother had chosen not to inform me of both my grandmother’s, and my father’s death or anyone else in the family.

Adult ^

I knew when I was nine years old that I was to become a nurse when I left school, and I did that for the first 20 years of my working life. I felt compassion for those who were sick and, in some way, wanted to ease their suffering if I could.

As a young 17-year-old nurse I was faced with a lot of challenges around my intuitive ability as it became more heightened in a hospital environment. I knew when emergencies and other issues were about to happen. I did not deal with this very well and became more anxious. I couldn’t talk about it to anyone for fear of judgement.

When I was nearly 27 years old, I lived through 3 life changing challenges only a few months apart in the same year and as a result I had a major breakdown.

Firstly, my boyfriend whom I had lived with for 4 years ended our relationship a week after we became engaged. I took it very badly. A few months later my younger, and only brother was killed in a car accident at the age of 23. Then two weeks later my grandfather was admitted to hospital, and died within a couple of days of kidney cancer which no one was aware he had.

I was not travelling very well mentally at all and, wasn’t able to put myself on a plane and attend my brother’s funeral. At the time I had not long moved in with two friends since I broke up with my fiancé. It seems no one was able to help me get on a plane to be with my family. Two months later I went back to New Zealand to spend time with family.

A few months later I was driving to work, and a pedestrian ran out in front of my car. I performed CPR which revived him but unfortunately, he died in the ambulance on the way to the hospital from a massive head injury.

After this I wasn’t sure if I would make it through so for quite some time, I battled with wanting to die, and often had suicidal thoughts. I wouldn’t eat much and lost a great deal of weight. Even though the car accident was not my fault, I couldn’t deal with the fact that I had been the cause of someone’s death.

Later down the track I had to attend a coroner’s court for 3 days in a row, for them to decide a compensation pay out for his wife and 5 children. This created me to spiral down even further. I started seeing a grief counsellor for some months to get me through.

Health ^

I had a lot of sickness growing up. I believe a lot of this has had to with anchoring me in the physical and experiencing what’s real. I had numerous bouts of tonsillitis, strep throats, viruses until I was about 25 years old.

At the age of 17 during my nursing training, I developed colitis, and was admitted to hospital a couple of times over that year. I believe it was brought on by trauma, and anxiety. It eventually settled but I ended up with severe irritable bowel syndrome for the rest of my life.

On my 21st birthday I fell down a flight of stairs, and sprained both my ankles quite badly. This put me in a wheelchair for a couple of weeks. No, I wasn’t drunk I was on my way to work, and the light in the staircase to my flat wasn’t working, so I couldn’t see properly.

Later that year I contracted glandular fever for which I was also hospitalized. It took me quite some time to recover from this, and I also had a relapse after 6 months.

I’ve broken both my tibias. One when I was 14, and the other when I was 54 years old. In 1990, I sustained a severe back injury following an accident while nursing, ended my nursing career.

All these health issues predisposed me to being diagnosed with fibromyalgia and debilitating chronic fatigue in 1992 which I still live with today.

In hindsight this explains a lot about feeling so fatigued most of my life. My chronic illnesses were diagnosed in 1992, and I have had plenty of time to exam all possible avenues of treatment.

Unfortunately, many aspects of my illness are currently untreatable. My condition is chronic and severe. I continue to experiment with many things and stay up to date with what medicine may offer along with alternative medicine.

I accept my illness, but I would be lying if I said I was always at peace dealing with debilitating fatigue and chronic pain daily.

Conclusion ^

I still live with anxiety and debilitating fibromyalgia. I am considered high functioning with anxiety. Just to explain, the term ‘high functioning with anxiety’, it means one functions reasonably well in many aspects of life.

I have learned to use my anxiety to propel myself forward in life, but at times are not able to do this for short time. A person who functions with anxiety in a way hides it behind getting on with life. A low functioning person with anxiety is often more frozen in time, and will avoid everything possible, to not to do things that trigger their anxiety.

I still have lessons to learn from my illnesses. When I overcame my trauma of early life, and it no longer affected me, I thought my anxiety would go away, but it didn’t. It is highly likely my chronic illnesses will be with me for life, as they are part of my lessons in living my life purpose.

We are all here to learn spiritual lessons. I have chosen to evolve myself through a spiritual path. This can bring a lot of challenges to the inner life, which can cause some to develop mental, emotional and physical conditions. How long these take to heal depends on how long it takes to deal with the major issue that one is healing in the present life.

This story was mainly a back story, but overtime, I will add more about the influences that have shaped me, because as my husband points out, I left out 20 years of my life here, which also includes him.

No matter where we are on our journey, we are all a work in progress. Learn from and enjoy your journey, its uniquely yours.

Devaki Sokaris
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