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Devaki Sokaris

Live the life your soul wants

The problem with mindset

Mindset is the new psychology but is all the hype what it’s cracked up to be?

We hear Just stop worrying about failure and focus on mindset. The term change your mindset has become a cliché, like many things losing what is real, and if that isn't enough, we are bombarded with inspirational quotes to keep us going when clearly it isn’t enough.

Failure is part of life so why do we keep measuring our life by the labels failure and success when they are just experiences that shape us. What one may see as a failure another will recognize as being something that was not one’s purpose.

All outcomes are not final but merely a fork in the road for more of the story to be continued thus what may have been viewed as failure was there to allure one in another direction.

The problem with mindset it is often a fake it to make it approach fooling a person into thinking they have dealt with their inner conflicts when what they are doing is deflecting from their issues. The mindset a distraction in order to make themselves feel better rather than deal with what is real.

The personality is very good in setting up an illusion of the truth where one can justify their perception of the truth.

Mindset can be helpful in the very early stage to focus on where you want to be if one doesn’t fool themselves in believing that is all that is needed. The only way to change life is to do inner work to address one’s issues and beliefs in the first place. Mindset growth like affirmations otherwise becomes words one mumbles without power.

If you create your life from the inside out your mindset will change naturally to align with what is real. To change you must know what emotional and thought patterns are driving the decisions you make every day. From there, you can begin to make better decisions that allow you to become who you really can be.

Many coaches and consultants hide behind mindset because they don’t know how to help their clients deal with the real issues in their growth, so they will often tell their clients to work on their mindset without giving them any grounded information of how. If one does not know how to explain a strategy effectively, they are playing to a one size fits all platitude and don’t understand it themselves.

It’s not a mainstream life coach or consultant's job to deal with a person’s deeper inner conflicts or emotional issues, so they need to be working with people that are able and willing to change. Yet many of the clients they attract are not fit for coaching, and they will often take them on, thinking they can help by trying to get them to change their mindset when they are out of their depth.

Mindset is not a magic bullet for blocks, patterns, or becoming your best potential, where once you have the right mindset, you can then just make goals and go for it. There’s a good chance one who has not dealt with their issues at a deeper level will crash sometime during the process.

Many people have attachments to their limiting beliefs so need to dig deeper in understanding their attachment before they can overcome them.

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