Us and them

We are all citizens of the world sharing this planet thus the world was made for everybody, but selfishness and greed has changed that.

Life is all about what we came to learn, experience, and understand. It is not the details of how we have gone about something that is important, but rather what our choices and attitudes were while making those decisions. If we make assumptions other people are where they are we fail to see them and project onto them our own assumptions. When we embrace our shared humanity, we display compassion for humanity at large and do not judge.

When autistic people do the neurotypical this and that thing, it gets in the way of people seeing people for who they are and creates a stereotype we are rejecting for ourselves as autistic people. We need to be careful not to project our own model of an allistic or autistic people onto other people. Not all behaviour is NT or ND as such, because we are human first, and many things are just human behaviour. We are all unique, and if we stereotype people who are not autistic, we also become part of the problem of what we do not want.

Constantly comparing ourselves to non-autistic people is not the way to understand ourselves. All that does is create an illusion of who we are because when we compare ourselves to other people, we lose ourselves. We are all unique so if we use other people to measure who we are we will never understand ourselves very well and this is why people are confused.

There is a saying, if you have met one autistic person, you have met one autistic person. I do not use it myself, but it escapes me why the same does not go for non-autistic people. They are just as diverse in their neurotype as we are, thus there is not a model to model them like anyone else. So, if you have met one neurotypical person, you have met one neurotypical person.

I have witnessed many times autistic people masking around other autisitc people as they do non-autistic people. This is because they have not yet discovered who they are and do not even trust another autisitc person will be tolerant of them. The reality is it is quite possible another autisitc person will not be tolerant of their autisitc self. This cannot happen until we stop trying to be like other people.

Going through life measuring our differences or repeatedly comparing ourselves to people that are non-autistic or any neurotype does not help us really understand ourselves, nor will it guarantee we will get along. In many cases it comes at a big cost of compromising our true selves. We get along with people who accept us for who we are, and neurotype has little to do with it otherwise we would only have autistic, friends, partners and spouses.