Being you

Being you is a journey of intentional presence with life and one that helps us gain self awareness and understanding of who we already are.

To be yourself is not a journey outward, but a journey inward. It is not about discovering a hidden purpose or reaching toward some ideal self; it is about noticing what already is. It is in the quiet moments, the pause between thoughts, the spaces between breaths that we see ourselves. Not as a concept, not as a project, not as a goal to achieve, but as the living, breathing presence we have always been.

Being ourselves is reflective, not corrective. It is observing our moods, patterns, instincts without judgment or expectation. It is feeling our joy, sadness, restlessness, and stillness with equal attention. It is the human experience in its, unedited form. We do not become ourselves, we come home to ourselves, repeatedly in the natural rhythm of living. In in this homecoming, we realise nothing needs to be fixed, nothing needs to be earned. We are already here, already enough, already complete in our presence.

Being you is a journey that gains awareness of who we are and who we are becoming. We have many purposes in life. While what we are drawn to do in life largely creates what we have become, our purpose is all about what we came to learn, experience, and understand.

Learning lessons may be hard but facing them is best, so not to create unnecessary lessons. Self-awareness is being able to view our thoughts, beliefs, and behaviour from a detached perspective, so we can learn from what has been observed. To step outside our experiences is to reflect and seek the inner for understanding. Change only happens with acceptance and living within the awareness of what we have discovered about ourselves.

It is pointless to say I wish I knew then what I know now. Looking at the past for an identify and the future for a better life is not real. If we make good use of our mileage, we can reach a place of much more acceptance, and peace with our lives. If we want to experience the heart, we must open the door rather than polish the knob on the door.

A lot of people’s lives are wasted on spending more time on regret and worry thus their thoughts are centred in the past and future. Our life is only a collection of present moments, so the past is only our present experiences gone by. The future is only events waiting to happen, so it’s pointless to focus on anything other than the present moment where everything happens. Focusing on the past isolates us from awareness in the present to deal with life issues.

We all grow at different rates so it is best to meet people where they are as our path is to focus on our own life. However, sometimes we move on from people so not to limit our own growth. People will sometimes try to keep us the same, so they feel safe and why many relationships end because the limitation of staying there becomes too great. People will come and go from life, that’s to be expected and how it is supposed to be.