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We need values so we can live our life being your real self. Knowing what our core values are provide a road map to live our lives and one that inspires us to be happy.

Many people are just not clear about what their values are. They don’t know how strongly they feel about something until it is threatened in some way, which is why it’s important to know ourselves. Our core values will determine how we see other people and the world around us, so when we are challenged by something that doesn’t align with our values, we will be challenged by it. Our values are our inner beliefs and will dictate how we live our lives which is why thus be a big factor in who we form relationships with for love, friendship, work and business.

When we become clear and aligned with our values we don’t settle for less. Our core values allow us to know what’s right and wrong, and whether we are on the right path. They are about staying true to ourselves and knowing when to compromise without losing our true selves. Not all core values that people have are positive as some people may be driven by self-obsession and greed and those values will dictate how those people live their lives.

Our beliefs are what make us unique and many of them will have been shaped when we were children, and inherited from our parents. Our core values will affect all the choices, and decisions we make in life which includes ones about our religion, spirituality, career, political views and beliefs. Throughout our lives, we are constantly making decisions based on what we feel is right at the time so over time values can change as we grow, and learn more about who we are, and what becomes important to us.

Age, background, what we have experienced, and learnt in life will determine our values. We may not share the same opinion with many people but there’s much more to a person than a disagreement, and there may be something that can be learnt from it, and to ponder on. Just because they do not share our opinions does not mean they do not have something of worth to share with others. Once we accept that everyone will not share our values, we open doors for far more expansion in relationships with others. Trying to force others to abide by our values shuts the door to growth and self-awareness.

It is unlikely that a person will be happy for the long term in a relationship with someone whose core values conflict too much with their own. It is always best to establish early in a relationship whether our values align with the person we are contemplating a future with. Shared values in a relationship can be the key to a successful relationship rather than shared interests, because even though we might enjoy doing things we both like together, when it comes to making major life decisions about marriage, children, careers etc its more important.

Couples that have an enduring relationship and grow old together usually connect at a deeper level because even after the children, ‘if any’ have left the nest and are getting on with their lives, they have a connection that runs deeper than that, and is connected by the values they share together.

Some of the core values that support a successful relationship are:

  1. a.Common goals and values
  2. b.Putting each other first
  3. c.Trust
  4. d.Honesty
  5. e.Mutual respect
  6. f.Integrity
  7. g.Sharing mutual responsibility
  8. h.Equality with money
  9. i.Unconditional love.
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