Being real
Being our true selves is what we all came here to do.
Saying we are authentic sounds ridiculous unless we are an appliance, clothing, or an accessory. I think using terms like real or true self when describing people is more real. People who say I am authentic come across as fake and are often looking for attention. If we have to tell someone we're real, then that's a red flag. Everyone is unique so anyone who is real does not say I am authentic or needs to when they are presenting as their real self. Those who are real simply live in the awareness of who they are and do not make such announcements.
We all come into this world a little fractured. It is in seeing what is right in front of us and the opportunities presented that we can trust in the unfolding path before us. We don’t need to worry if we have lost your way as it is in the stillness we hear the voice of wisdom on how to proceed forward. Being conscious of the journey allows parts of us to wake up that were previously asleep, and this can give more insight into remembering who we are.
Integrity means we are only willing to do the right thing and honour the truth. It is much more than just being honest, as it involves integrating our whole being and beliefs. This means that a person with integrity will not only be honest, they will also care about the best interest of others, but above all be true to themselves.
The lies we tell ourselves and others project a false perception of who we really are. It involves lying or avoiding the truth. This uses a lot of wasted energy to maintain, rather than being honest about what’s real. Living with integrity is about being consistent in who we are regardless of the situation. There is only one you, so we bring that person wherever we are.
One of the challenges many will experience is it is difficult keep friends as they change. This is often because people overstep boundaries wanting us to stay the same, and project their baggage blaming us for what they should own. Sometimes these people will leave our life as they have too much difficulty accepting the changes in us. Some may need to walk away from family, and long-time friendships with people who try to manipulate them in choosing between them and being who they are.
Fake it to make it
△The analogy around fake it to make is, one day we won’t need to fake it. Hear that out loud implies we are waiting for a magic bullet to arrive while we are pretending we already have it.
Why would we want to pretend to be happy, so we might just might trick ourselves into believing we are happy. Fake it to make it is a form of deception, and exhausting because it involves lying, and avoiding telling the truth. This then shows a false image of who one really is, thus painting a false reality of the self, which involves a lot of wasted energy to maintain rather than being honest about what’s real, and what the needs of ourselves and others are.
Fake it to make it is a form of deception, and exhausting because it involves lying, and avoiding telling the truth. This then shows a false image of who they, thus painting a false reality of themselves, which involves a lot of wasted energy to maintain, rather than being honest about what’s real. Being genuine allows more opportunities to be possible because no one can help s if we are pretending to be alright or give the impression we have got it. Fake it to make it recipe for illness rather than changing life for the better.
Growth
△We are all not in the same place in life. Some people are more evolved than others, so they can give insight to things one may not be conscious of.
However, we are not here to force others to see what we see, no matter the truth, if another isn’t ready to discover what is there. Meeting people where they are and giving them an opportunity to see more is good, but it’s important to allow them their free will to choose what they do or don’t do. Self-awareness is the key to understanding ourselves. If one can’t view their self, thoughts, beliefs and behaviour from a detached perspective, they won’t learn from what they have observed.
Most of what we deal with runs deeper than we actually deal with, but we don’t always have to dig around unnecessarily looking for issues either. Depending on the choices we make from our challenges, what we thought we dealt with may appear again for some more insight and healing so its always best to deal with what’s highly relevant to our circumstances.
Integrating self
△The integration of all parts of one’s self is important, and really the only way a person can bring their true self consistently wherever they go.
At the very least it takes self-awareness to know ourselves. Life isn’t a continuous goal where we constantly think we are not where we are meant to be right now. Others are not accountable to keep us on track by pushing us when we may not appear be moving forward. How much potential we achieve is up to us. Embracing the journey allows the insights and clarity to come through which can’t happen if one tries to drive their life with force. Patience, compassion and kindness to oneself is needed.
Sometimes we must accept that many of the feelings we have about ourselves may not be real, because the personality sometimes overrides what the inner wants for us. The personality is an expression of the inner, but it is far from perfect, and being the personality, it wants what it wants. Doing inner work helps to bring through a better expression of the true self.
Shadow self
△Embracing the parts of ourselves that ae negative can help us grow.
What happens when we feel our inner peace is just finally feeling intact and then something triggers us, and out steps the shadow for its 15 mins walk of shame, then after all we want to do is crawl into the hole we came out of. If we don’t face our not so nice bits, we will continue to be faced with it through triggers and others people who reflect it back to us. We all must accept we have a shadow self, and we will be faced with aspects of it to deal with for the rest of our lives.
Getting to know the parts of ourselves we have disowned can lead to a more fulfilling life. It’s not so hard to recognise the shadow self if we become more conscious of what we are projecting on to others. Getting to know the parts of ourselves we have disowned can lead to a more fulfilling life. It’s not so hard to recognize the shadow if we become more conscious of what we are projecting on to others.
Wonderful people have shadows and that means they may be humble, compassionate, caring, kind and yes, an a-hole as well.Those who own their shadows and embrace what they need to heal in themselves will transform many aspects of the shadow self throughout a lifetime.
In times where we may feel like projecting, if we draw back from negatively projecting, and own the feelings we are experiencing it gives time to connect with what might be triggering the behaviour. No one likes their shadow self, but it needs our attention along with all our good qualities.