Mindset is not belief

We cannot control the decisions and actions of others, so just believing you have a job before an interview will not influence the interview panel. Chanting in one’s head I’ve got the job is not real.

The term change your mindset has become a cliché, like many things losing what is real, and if that isn't enough, we are bombarded with inspirational quotes to keep us going when clearly it isn’t enough. Failure is part of life, so why do we keep measuring our life by the label’s 'failure' and 'success', when they are just experiences that shape us. What one may see as a failure, another will recognize as being something that was not one’s purpose.

All outcomes are not final, but merely a fork in the road for more of the story to be continued, thus what may have been viewed as failure was there to allure one in another direction. The problem with mindset is it is often a fake it to make it approach, thus being more of a distraction in order to make themselves feel better, rather than deal with what is real. The personality is very good in setting up an illusion of the truth where one can justify their perception.

Mindset can be helpful in the early stage to get one in the right frame of mind, if one doesn’t fool themselves in believing that is all that is needed. A lot of mindset growth becomes words one mumbles which don’t manifest anything real. If we create our life from the inside out, our mindset will change naturally to align with what is real. Mindset is not a magic bullet for dealing with issues or manifesting the change we want. Many people have attachments to their limiting beliefs, so need to dig deeper in understanding their attachment before they can overcome them.

‘If I can do it, you can’ is a pitch people use who don’t understand we each have a unique path to us.

We do not know what another person’s lessons are so we need to be inspiring people to follow their own hearts, and not strive for what others have for the illusion of happiness but rather to focus on what may be possible for them. We don't have the right to tell anyone they have got this because we don’t know what they are experiencing so to tell them they have got this can make their circumstances feel worse.

We are best to meet people where they are and show them through our own lives what we have overcome, which may give them hope that they have their own opportunities in life. We live in a society that gives people false perceptions that they can become a rocket scientist if they want to be by adopting an attitude that they can do it just because someone else could do it.

Everyone will experience times when they have not got this and that’s okay. Growth requires commitment and persistence, so there will be times when we are not moving forward. This time can be used to reflect and will often bring some valuable insights. It is still a person’s choice how much they are willing to grow and it's not our place to judge them. We all have limitations in some way or form because they are there to help anchor us into seeing what is real.

Hope is often based on what is not real. It’s not a promise of an outcome that makes us feel better.

Hope works with the greater consciousness of the universes plan, so it doesn’t work with what our preconceptions are. It helps to keep us hanging in there while we accept and adjust to the changes ahead. It’s not helpful to tell someone everything will be okay, because we do not know what they’re experiencing. The person may not understand the outcome, so it doesn’t mean they will feel everything is ok.

Hope can often be an unrealistic view of the change wanted, rather than what is real. Some of the fears felt may be the reality of what needs to be faced in moving forward. That can be a painful process, but another path cannot be taken while staying in hope of something that is not real We don’t ask the universe to fix our issues rather than taking responsibility for them. The universe is not responsible for what we have created. We must ask, what we can do to change our circumstances for the better.

Not trusting life can disrupt the path being put in place. We want to be kept in the loop because the unknown is uncomfortable. The lesson is to get comfortable with not ever knowing the whole truth and accepting it as a work in progress. Even though all may not be understood, nothing is final. It is best to draw on inner strength and wisdom for comfort, and guidance in weathering the storms life dishes out.

People seeking unhealthy validation has been around for a long time, but since social media it has become perpetual.

The only real validation that is important is internal validation. Of course, there are times in life that feedback is needed so we have a sense we are on track but this is not the kind of validation I am speaking about. Real validation comes from the higher self and does not pander to look at me in my nice clothes, possessions, and nice shiny things. Many say they do not need validation, yet they still seek attention for superficial shallow things in life because emotionally they are not ready to dig deeper.

If one is still seeking validation through social proof, they have not transformed enough to be showing any real change in their approach to life. I do not say this to hurt anyone, but rather to bring attention that this behaviour shows a lack of self-awareness that they are seeking false approval, validation, and rewarding themselves with things, to deflect from what's real.