Peoples stories

We all have our own unique path in life thus we have our own lessons and healing journey that cannot be learned from someone else’s story or experiences in life.

If transformation has truly taken place, we will be a product of living in the awareness of transformation. Our story may be interesting to others but it is not their survival kit and, should never be marketed as one. We can inspire others without sharing our story, because we carry an inner light that leads by example and people are attracted to as a result of the transformation because they want that for themselves.

Although helpful on the journey, a few aha moments and insights are not the product of transformation. Until our own suffering is understood, transformation is not possible. Transformation is evident in how we live our lives and that is what helps people, rather than telling people about our experiences which are mostly to help us express out own suffering as we heal. Until that happens we will continue to see the world how we are rather than how it is. We are a constant work in progress.

If I can do it, so can you, you’ve of this, or we are in this together are platitudes, and given by those who do not understand we each have a unique path. Many will often tell their stories because they want acknowledgment and validation for their journey, and others do it because they want to inspire others to dig deeper in knowing themselves. Many fall in the trap of chronic self absorption which is some is narcissistic traits. For others it is transient and part of their healing journey as they transform from victim consciousness to living in the awareness of who they really are.

A story may give someone hope, that it is possible to overcome things in life, but a story is not their recipe for change. They may even relate or identify with a story. However, it is the choices and decisions, that they make that decide what they overcome in life, which are not based on some else's steps for healing. It is what we carry within us that inspires others to take charge of their own lives. Saying I went through this and came out a better person does not help people. If we cannot explain how we did it, it will not inspire anyone.

Telling others we suffered through many challenges is a statement and just what we do in life to share things about ourselves. That is not a story and should just be viewed as some awareness to a life lived. A story is when someone shares the broader details of their past, their inner processes, feelings, thoughts and the actions they took to get there.

It is in being able to explain what our thought processes, feelings and actions were, and the alignment that took place that shares real wisdom of the heart. Many are not able to do that because they have are not aware of the of the steps they took on the journey to get there, so make statements like, I got through this. People carry shame and may decide to tell their secrets, but this is their own process. People often share their stories for themselves, but often project it is to help others or use it as a sales pitch for their business.

A life story is not an authority to help others for an income or proves that they can, as using it in that way is a false authority. If a person feels that they want to share their story for interest treat it as such. If they are using it for a sales pitch, be very weary, because they are most likely using their come back from misfortunes in life to emotionally manipulate people in buying their services.

Being real is an inner journey we integrate, and then live our life in that awareness, thus are living the transformation story, rather talking about it. When we truly transform from the inside out we stop playing the same tunes on the outer. Its best to meet people where they are as we are not all in the same place of our journey, and view their journey as theirs. As soon as we identify ourselves in other people we lose ourselves.