Soul mates
This article is mainly focused on love soul mates, as there are many glamours and illusions about what they are and how they serve us.
We have many soul mates in life, they are our partners, spouse, children, friendships, work colleagues, acquaintances and even fleeting strangers we connect with for a short time. Not all soulmates are strong soul mates, so some are lesser ones. They all have different purposes and lessons.
Some of the most challenging relationships come from a soul mate. They may be people we don’t like or get along with very well. Some of them may even be trying to undermine us thus behave more like our enemies.
Soulmates help us understand that people are not here to fulfil our preconceptions of what we need but rather to challenge what our needs really are. Soulmates bring with them spiritual lessons for us to learn and once the lessons has been learned they may not remain in our lives, depending on what is needed for each other’s growth.
One true love△
News flash this is not Disney land: We fall in love. They complete us and we live happily ever after.
One of the many issues is when people go into a relationship with unrealistic expectations. To expect a person to fulfil all one’s needs is unrealistic, which will often cause a lot of conflict and challenges for the relationship.
Many people believe a relationship defines who they are, thus place a lot of importance on finding their one true love. In an ideal world it would be much better if more people worked on themselves before thinking another person was responsible for their needs.
It isn’t the plan for everyone to have a lifelong partner, as their lessons may be to spend most of the life on their own to learn different things. This can be hard for someone who doesn’t understand this and is constantly seeking to find their one true love.
Love soulmates can challenge us in ways we wouldn’t be if we were on our own. These challenges provide opportunities to overcome many issues, thus growing in ways we may not have while single. If there's enough love between them to work through the challenges, soulmates will grow overcome issues and grow together.
When two people support one another in discovering their true selves, a union is created with more love as they embrace their purpose together and their own individual purposes. If one can say their relationship is better than the day they got married or committed to one another, they have done well and experienced as close to perfection as it gets.
Soulmates who support each other in living as their true selves, allow their partners to grow without interfering with their journey. We grow differently in a relationship than they do as a single person. It’s not to say a relationship is better, but it can be less challenging for a single person in some ways, because they haven’t got anyone around to push some of those growth buttons in the same way that a partner does.
It depends on what the learning lessons are as to how long relationships last. However, some decide to break their contract with another soul mate, because they find the challenges too hard, which we don’t have any control over. Sometimes after difficult relationships, some choose to be single as they don’t want those challenges.
The soul always has preferences for relationships, but one still has free will to undermine its wishes. In the end we must accept someone else's decision, because even though there was a plan, one has the free will to kibosh it, which has consequences for both parties.
Spiritual partnership△
When two souls marry in the awareness it is for spiritual partnership, it is one of equality and the knowing they are together to assist each other’s spiritual growth.
Spiritual partners can see there is a reason they have been brought together beyond the needs of the physical. They live in the awareness they are together to help their soul’s growth. They know the purpose of their relationship is not for security, but rather to support each other in reflecting their true selves.
This not to say that they will not go through challenges that other couples do when the relationship is challenging The difference is, they may be more willing to dig deeper in understanding what they need to do to evolve as a couple. .