Perfect relationships

We are not perfect, so our relationships will not be perfect. What we want isn’t often what we need.

People are put together for the souls learning, so they will be challenged in ways that they wouldn’t be if they were on their own. Outcomes will be in what the couple are willing to overcome as an individual and together. When there is enough love between people, they often have the support to work through challenges that may arise within the conflict of their personalities. this allows a couple to still love one another even though for a short time they don’t like each other very much, while going through this process.

These challenges provide opportunities to build respect, and the potential to overcome many issues. If one can say their relationship is better than the day they got married or committed to one another, they are experiencing as close to perfection as it gets. We must work for a successful relationship together as a couple with each owning what they bring to the relationship dynamic. A relationship that survives the storms is one where two people are committed to heal and grow together.

When two people support one another in being true to themselves, and discovering who they are, a union is created with more love as they embrace their purpose together. One of the many issues is when people go into a relationship with unrealistic expectations. To expect a person to fulfil all one’s needs is unrealistic, and many of those needs are preconceptions that need challenging.

Many people believe a relationship defines who they are. In an ideal world it would be much better if more people worked on themselves before thinking their partner was responsible for their needs. Some are often quick to decide the grass is greener on the other side when the going gets tough so duck out of responsibility. What isn’t dealt with follows one, so there’s no getting out of what one needs to learn, as the soul will find another avenue or destination to make this happen.

When we understand we are not here to fulfil the preconceptions of another's needs, but rather to challenge what their real needs are, then a good relationship is formed. Some people are in co-dependent and toxic relationships, thus at the mercy of other people's needs. The best relationship comes without unrealistic expectations or attachment to outcomes. We simply enjoy each other for who we are rather than what we can do for each other. As we mature in life it becomes a clear reality that these friendships are pretty much non-existent as many come with unrealistic expectations and agendas.

Many are still searching to find people that fulfil their needs when the responsibility is theirs. Only when we are willing to take responsibility for our own lives, is it then possible to experience good relationships. We can learn to accept ourselves through inner work, and those who love us, so it makes no sense to say we must wait until we love ourselves before we can love another. I can’t successfully have a relationship until I love myself.’ is often an excuse for not wanting to meet the challenges of having a relationship or not feeling worthy of love.

We often don’t know what some of our issues are until they are highlighted a relationship. A person can grow in a relationship in ways they couldn’t while single so will learn much about themselves and what their real needs are when those preconceptions are challenged. Sometimes we may need to burn bridges to follow our path, thus compassion is often walking away as it allows us to focus on our own path and let them to do the same.